I got a comment from "A Long Time Reader" relating to my post on gender discrimination in the advertising business. You can see the post and the comment here.
This is my response:
Thanks for reading, Long Time Reader.
Don't you find it a little naive to think there are no women
out there making it on their own? Have you heard of the gal who wrote
the Harry Potter books? Oprah Winfrey? I know several women entrepreneurs that
have started their own businesses, totally on their own, without expecting
anything from anyone but respect and a fair shake, and they have it much
tougher than the guys. Lines of credit don't open as easily for them,
people don't listen as seriously. They are hardworking,
intelligent risk-takers. They are not any less capable than any guy. In fact, they have to work harder to overcome stereotypes and ingrained attitudes. It is not their fault. We just happen to have a deeply ingrained, millennial
culture that assumes that men are natural leaders and women are not,
because for centuries, women were not allowed to read, study in
universities, vote, have professions, have their own businesses, or simply be independent
human beings. They were supposed to stay home, breed, and obey the male. How could one compete? To this day, some men still believe they get to decide on what women do with their own sexuality and their pregnancies. The nerve.
At this point, the discrimination, the patronizing, the looking
down on women, are embedded in our cultural DNA. It may not always be conscious, or malicious, but that's the way
Look at porn. Porn is a good example of the imbalance between the genders.
Why is it always the woman who is shown to be acted upon, penetrated, manhandled, increasingly with more violence and alienation? Why isn't there a more equal porn where both men and women are objects of erotic desire? Because that is how men look at women. And men don't want to look at other men. And women have been taught that they can't really express themselves sexually. That they should be pure and chaste and not sluts. It's a man's world. And now, there are entire generations of kids who grow up thinking that the ridiculous, ugly, pounding sex in porn is normal sex. You guys are not doing a good job.
Women who object to this state of affairs are called "whiners" by
people like you.
that women have to fight hard for equality and fairness. As I said in my post, we have to start our own fight. But men will defend their
status quo tooth and nail. Why? Because men know, as the fanatics of every religion that wants to keep
women down know (pretty much all of them), that the minute women have truly equal footing, this
will mean real freedom, real democracy, real civilization, real human progress. Keeping women down is the first, most basic, most intimate form of human oppression. It is the essence of barbarism.
The question we should be asking is why women have tolerated and abetted this through the ages.
But in this day and age, when religious belief is utterly irrelevant, and we are not hunting Mammoths and living in caves, women have every right to demand equality, fairness and respect. That is not whining or begging, that is plain dignity.
Modernity, however, is no guarantee of civilization. Look at the
Holocaust. Look at every genocide since then. Look at the American South up to the 1960's. Look at two young football players who gang raped a girl recently and bragged about it all over social media. Someone on CNN was sorry that their brilliant future careers were over.
It is still imperative for those who are treated unfairly to fight for equal opportunity and justice.
As for your opinions about begging blacks and grousing Jews, they seem
to me pernicious and naive generalizations. There are many successful black people, like our very own President Obama; and there
are countless Jews who beg and don't have a pot to piss on.
If certain groups don't have the political, economic, or social power to change their situation, what are they supposed to do? If Martin Luther King and the Civil Rights Movement had not "whined" and demanded, would there still be segregation and lynchings in the South? If women had not demanded the right to an education, to vote, to equal pay? We'd all be attending mindless Tupperware parties in Stepford.
That's not progress. That is regression.
In short, I think we do not protest enough, but I suspect that we have very different worldviews. Thank you for your readership.